If we were to ask you if you’ve ever faked an orgasm before and you said “no”, we’d probably give you major side-eye. Just based on the stats alone, close to 80 percent of women have “faked it” before, for one reason or another.Sometimes it’s due to the fear of being totally vulnerable with their partner. Other reasons include not wanting to disappoint their partner, wanting to hurry up and get the experience over with or never having an orgasm before and feeling self-conscious about letting their partner know that. There are even some women who make faking an orgasm a regular practice because they are afraid of what an “unrehearsed/unexpected orgasm” would look and feel like.
Too bad too because by faking an orgasm, a lot of women are missing out on so many of the benefits that come with having a REAL one.
Matter of fact, there is actually one medical professional who believes that women should have no less than three real orgasms a week.Aside from the physical pleasure that they give, orgasms are proven to provide stress relief, lower depression and anxiety symptoms, make us want to be nicer to others, not to mention they’re a natural pain reliever too.
There’s another reason why having actual orgasms is so important. If a woman is not achieving orgasm or doesn’t have a desire for sex, it could indicate that there’s an underlying health issue like diabetes or high blood pressure (especially if she’s had them before).
Why are we sharing all of this with you? Because if faking an orgasm is something that you do, even a fraction of the time, we’re hoping that you’ll want to make it a goal to actually have one—sooner than later.
What if you’re not sure how to make that happen? Fully trusting your partner, not allowing yourself to feel self-conscious about your body and trying sexual positions that increase the chances of you climaxing can all help. However, to be fair, we also read that there’s a chance that “faking it until you make it” ironically may help you to achieve an orgasm too.How is that possible? When you’re in the process of participating in what is known as “elevated arousal” (the technical term for faking an orgasm), sometimes the sounds that you make, along with the excitement that you give your partner (if he’s not in tune enough with your body to know if you’re faking it or not) can actually get you excited in the process. If you’re able to maintain a certain level of “acted out passion” for more than a couple of minutes, there’s a chance that you could end up having an orgasm without even trying—well, trying for real.
Is the moral to the story that if you’re a faker to simply keep on doing what you’re doing? Not really because the study doesn’t guarantee that faking an orgasm will lead to a real one; it simply says that there’s a possibility that it might happen.
But if you are someone who’s done all that you can to “get there” and fireworks haven’t gone off just yet, chin up. Faking it until you make it just might surprise you one day.Here’s hoping, anyway.